同样重要的是，认可 - 说某人的感受是可接受的或有价值的 - 并不等于同意他们的感受。我们当然可以有不同的感受，亦要努力去理解和同情我们所爱的人。
Emotions serve an important purpose and shouldn’t be ignored. For example, feeling angry, afraid, or sad tells you that something’s wrong. You don’t want to miss these crucial pieces of information because they can help you to take care of yourself and make decisions to keep safe.
Feelings aren’t right or wrong.They are a reflection of your thoughts, experiences, and perceptions, which is why two people can have the same experience, but feel differently about it.
It’s also important to note that validation – saying that someone’s feelings are acceptable or worthwhile – isn’t the same as agreeing with their feelings. We can certainly feel differently and should make the effort to try to understand and empathize with our loved one’s feelings.