人到什么年龄才成熟?看到一些年轻人表现出的成熟程度远远超过他们的实际年龄,以及一些表现得孩子气和自私的老年人,似乎年龄似乎与此没有太大关系。
而且,作为一个成熟的人,在很大程度上取决于环境,取决于我们每个人面对生活中不同处境时的表现。因此,把这二十个“成熟”的标志藏在心底,我们就能更好地察觉到自己何时表现得不成熟,并促使自己成为更好的人。
当然,成熟的信号可能比这个列表所涵盖的为多,但这些已经是一个很好的开始。
At what age does one become mature? Observing how some young people who exhibit levels of maturity well beyond their years and older folks who act childishly and selfishly, it seems that age has not that much to do with it.
Also, it also seems that being a mature person is something that greatly depends on the context, and on how each of us behave when facing different circumstances in our lives. So by keeping these 20 tell-tale signs of “maturity” in the back of our mind, we can better detect when we are acting immaturely and push ourselves to become better persons.
Of course, there are probably many more signs of maturity than those covered in this list, but these are a good place to start.
#1
意识到自己有很多不懂的事情。
Realizing how much you don't know.
#2
多听少说。
Listening more and talking less.
#3
关心和体谅他人,而不是以自我为中心及不为他人着想。
Being aware and considerate of others as opposed to being self-absorbed, self-centered, and inconsiderate.
#4
不会每件事都往心里去、容易被冒犯、或者觉得有必要为自己辩护、证明或找借口。
Not taking everything personally, getting easily offended, or feeling the need to defend, prove, or make excuses for yourself.
#5
心存感激,和蔼可亲,不抱怨。
Being grateful and gracious, not complaining.
#6
为自己的健康和幸福负责,不依赖别人来“修理”你,也不要为你的处境而责怪别人。
Taking responsibility for your own health and happiness, not relying on others to "fix" you or placing blame for your circumstances.
#7
宽恕和同情自己及他人。
Having forgiveness and compassion for yourself and others.
#8
冷静平和,而不是绝望、疯狂或无理。
Being calm and peaceful, not desperate, frantic, or irrational.
#9
表现出灵活性和开放性,而不是抵触、控制或无理。
Showing flexibility and openness as opposed to resisting, controlling, or being unreasonable.
#10
做好事 - 即使没得到什么好处,只知道帮到了别人;无私的。
Doing good deeds even when there is nothing in it for you other than knowing you helped, being selfless.
#11
尊重他人的观点、信仰和生活方式而不加评判,不坚持自己是对的,不贬低他人,也不用亵渎或暴力来表达自己的观点。
Respecting another's point of view, beliefs, and way of life without judgment, not insisting you are right, belittling another, or using profanity or violence to get your point across.
#12
能够以德报怨,不诅咒他人。
Being able to turn the other cheek without wishing harm on another.
#13
做事前三思而后行,有礼貌,不半推半就,不大发雷霆或粗鲁无礼。
Thinking before acting and having good manners, not going off half-cocked, lashing out, or being rude.
#14
鼓励和支持他人。
Encouraging and being supportive of others.
#15
替别人的成功而高兴,而不是嫉妒或批评。
Finding joy in the success of someone else, not envy or criticism.
#16
知道总有成长和进步的空间,并寻求帮助。
Knowing there is always room to grow and improve and reaching out for help.
#17
能够谦逊,自嘲。
Having humility and laughing at yourself.
#18
接受、喜欢和爱自己。
Accepting, liking, and loving yourself.
#19
为自己和他人维护公平正义,选择做正确的事情。
Standing up for fairness and justice for yourself and others and choosing to do the right thing.
#20
不执着于物质的东西或自吹自擂。
Not clinging to materialistic items or bragging.
成熟并不代表年龄。
它意味着你的敏感度、礼仪和如何反应。